Should you divorce your life?

Where are the people?” resumed the little prince at last. “It’s a little lonely in the desert…”
“It is lonely when you’re among people, too,” said the snake.”
Antoine de Saint-Exupéry, The Little Prince

Lonely road, adventure, explore

Have you ever seen a lonely road like this and wondered where it was going? Should you take it? Will it lead you away from something or to something? Will it lead you to fame, fortune, love and the life of your dreams or will it lead you away from those things? Does your current life path ever seem like a lonely road? Are you at times lost, lonely and directionless?

If you aren’t happy with your current path in life and are feeling aimless and alone, maybe you need to consider traveling a different road, an even a lonelier one, where you might discover or re-discover who you truly are and what you can become.

The aimlessness and loneliness many of us feel each day is caused in part by the very people, places and things we have allowed into our lives. It can seem like a horrible trap with no way out, but it doesn’t have to be that way. There may be a way out, one that you may not have even thought of.

So Many People Live with Unhappy Circumstances

“So many people live within unhappy circumstances and yet will not take the initiative to change their situation because they are conditioned to a life of security, conformity, and conservatism, all of which may appear to give one peace of mind, but in reality nothing is more damaging to the adventurous spirit within a man than a secure future. The very basic core of a man’s living spirit is his passion for adventure. The joy of life comes from our encounters with new experiences and hence there is no greater joy than to have an endlessly changing horizon, for each day to have a new and different sun.” Christopher McCandless

Christopher McCandless (as chronicled in the bestselling book, “Into the Wild“, by Jon Krakauer) could see that the path he was on did match up with his adventurous spirit, so he set off on a lone quest to find himself.  To do this, he first divorced himself from his old life and then set upon a lonely but fulfilling trek to discover true meaning in his life. It’s possible you too need such a quest, a quest in which you give up nearly everything and everybody in an attempt to find yourself.

Divorce your life

divorce, new life

It may sound counter intuitive, but maybe you should consider divorcing yourself from those (people places or things) that are frustrating and depressing your authentic self.

There are many distractions that erode away at our true selves and our life potential, and most of them are downright meaningless. It may be a bad job, a one sided relationship, drugs, social media addictions or any of a host of other things. I can’t  tell you what they are for you personally but you instinctively know what they are. And it is up to you to eliminate the ones that are not contributing to your life. So what should you do? Divorce them.

The Loneliness Paradox

It’s a bit of a paradox, on the one hand you are already lonely and discouraged with all the noise and distractions caused by many of the (people, places and things) in your life. However to discover who you might become may require you putting yourself on a quieter and possibly even lonelier path, at least for a time. It’s in the power of being alone without all those distractions that you could ultimately find your true destiny.

Purposefully divorcing yourself from many of life’s encumbrances and taking the lonely road for a time won’t be easy. However, to find your life’s true path might be worth the price.

What do you think? Leave a comment and let me know.

Nicolas Hale

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